Dating Apps: A love / hate relationship grrrr

If you are single, chances are you've been on a dating app to try to find love (or in some cases maybe something else - and that's ok too). Now more than ever dating apps seem to be the ONLY way to meet someone. In COVID times, your options to go out and meet people are soooo limited. Especially in the winter. Social media and dating apps and the whole swipe culture have made dating apps the easiest way to meet someone.

You're either onboard, or you're lonely.

But for me, pre-COVID, I never met anyone NOT from a dating app. Trust me, pre-COVID, my single friends and I went out all the time to bars, restaurants, concerts - you name it. No men ever approached us. And I like to think I'm sort of an attractive gal with some beautiful friends. People just don't do that anymore. Swiping is so much easier, unfortunately. I've even attempted to ask a few guys out that I know NOT from dating apps and guess what? They all said no lol. So I did give it the old college try.

And I always end up back on the apps. I've pretty much been on all the big ones - Bumble, Match, Plenty of Fish, Tinder (that was a rookie mistake), OK Cupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, even Facebook dating. The only one I haven't tried was eHarmony because the cost was a little outrageous. My theory on dating apps is, now more than ever, it's really the only way to try to meet someone. And everyone I've talked to - guys, gals, that use them, agree with me. It's a necessary evil. Or as a recent prospect said to me, "where single people go to die" lol.

But is it possible to find what you are looking for on an app? I'll be diving a lot more into dating apps on this blog. But I do believe you can meet someone, I know plenty who have. In fact, I met my soulmate who passed away on an app. So I know it's possible.

So as much as I loathe them, it's a way of life for single people who don't want to die alone, and you'll find me swimming in that pool.

Side note: A future blog post will include cliches and why I hate them, which is something I've heard many times when people hear you are on dating apps. You know what I'm talking about if you are single - "stop looking so hard," "when you stop looking you'll find someone," etc. I know they are awful and hurtful and we'll talk about them another time. And for the record, one of my closest friends stopped looking six years ago, and guess what - she's still single (that was her factual statement when we discussed cliches).

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