Make'em Laugh

There are several reasons why I started this blog:

• I've been a blogger for many years and enjoy writing.

• I had so many funny and/or fucked up dating stories that I was told by many people I should write about them because you literally cannot make this shit up.

• Writing provides a way to release stress. Try it. I've been doing it since I was probably 10.

• I think I'm pretty fucking funny when it comes to my writing.

Part of my writing is being honest, open and raw about my dating experiences. That's what this blog is about. And also part of my writing and posting funny videos and memes is self-deprecating humor. And you know what comes with that terriortiy? People can get REAL uncomfortable with it. If I can't laugh at myself and my crazy dating adventures because they are often surreal, what are my other options? Fucking cry? Beat myself up? Nah. I'm good. I rather see the humor in it. Yes, of course, sometimes shit happens and it hurts. But guess what? I deal with it. I go to therapy. I cry if I need to. But ever the hopeful, optimistic with love, I push through and keep going down that rabbit hole called dating. Because it's MY choice to do so.

"Self-deprecating humor can be an effective method of neutralizing negative information about oneself." It also says something about your IQ. It shows self-awareness. It even shows leadership qualities - but I didn't need an article to tell me I have leadership skills or am self-aware. I know both of these things. It shows you are comfortable with your self and your situation. Self-deprecating humor even promotes psychological well-being.

For those who think my funny dating stories or memes that poke fun at myself make me look desperate and sad - well then you obviously don't know me that well. I'm living my life. Having fun. Doing what I want, when I want. Again, how many of you who tell me "you do you" or "focus on yourself" could do what I do? How many of you have gone to a concert by yourself? Or out to dinner on a Saturday night by yourself? Traveled by yourself? Do I need to go on?

I always say I want a partner, but I don't need one. And that is one of the reasons I've been single for so many years. Because I won't settle. I have settled in the past. And now as I approach 50, I refuse. If it means I end up alone, so be it. If I find someone who can match my energy and vibe, then fucking fantastic. If not, I'll keep being me, doing what I love, having fun, and yes, making fun of myself.

I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's ok.

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