The "Come Over" Guy

I. Hate. This. Guy.

This is the guy who NEVER wants to go out, take you out, meet out. He ONLY will do house dates. He wants you to come over. Or he wants to come over to your house.

I've seen guys on apps actually say "I only do house dates." Why tho? Are you broke? Are you cheap? Do you live in a bubble and can't leave your home (covid or not)?

A first date (and possibly even 2nd, 3rd, etc. until YOU feel comfortable) should NEVER be at your home or his home. A home date suggests one thing. SEX. They can say it won't be, but that's a lie. There is no way a man invites you over or invites himself over to your place, especially on a first date because they want to have milk and cookies. It's known. You are going there to hook up. And let's be real, COVID or not, it's not safe or smart for a woman to go over a man's house they barely know.

If they ask you that on a date and you are uncomfortable, suggest meeting somewhere else. A coffee shop. A bar. Somewhere in public. If they say no, MOVE ALONG SISTER. They want one thing.

Let me give you three recent scenarios that happened this past month. All three met on an app. All three had "wants a relationship" in their profile.

Come Over Guy #1

I went on a pleasant first date for drinks and apps with this guy after talking for a week or two. Convo was flowing. Laughs were had. We shared a brief first kiss. He asked me to come up to his apartment. I said another time. He texted that night. The next day. That weekend. He asked me out on a second date and invited me over to meet his dogs. Yea ok. I said another time, but how about we meet for drinks? He said he didn't feel like going out. Never heard from him again.

Come Over Guy #2

Was exchanging texts for a week and a half. Getting along great. He asked me out for drinks on Monday for Tuesday. I said sure. Then he said," then afterwards I can cum over your place." Yes, you read that write. He wrote CUM instead of COME. Oh, how clever. I didn't even respond. The next morning, he texted again and asked if his sense of humor was crude. I told him I didn't appreciate it and he wasn't "cuming" over. Never heard from him again.

Come Over Guy #3

Texted for 2 weeks. He was cute. He was sweet. Had a good job. He finally asked me out. He said I'll come over and give you a deluxe massage. I said as nice as that sounds, I don't do house dates for several dates. He immediately unmatched me. Never heard from him again.

Oh, I'm not upset about "losing" any of these clowns. We are not on the same page. Pay attention ladies. Most of these guys are showing right up front who they are and want they want. There are men out there - tho I'm still looking because they are a rare commodity - who WILL meet out in public on a first, second, third date - and WILL be willing to wait until you are comfortable for a house date.

Keep swiping.

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