The "I Don't Date Single Moms" Guy

Everyone has the right to date who ever they want. We all have preferences. Actually, I prefer to date men without younger children because it can be challenging to date when you both have young children and try to match up our schedules. It's been easier to date someone with no kids or older kids. If you aren't on the same weekends, it's almost impossible to date. But it doesn't mean I haven't tried to date men with younger children who weren't on the same weekends with their kids that I am on with mine. I am always willing to give it a shot because you never know! You can make it work if you want to and the person/relationship is worth it.

Single parent discrimination?

Now, there are definitely people out there who right off the bat are like HELL NO, I'm not dating any single parent. First, if you are over 40, and you say you won't date anyone who has kids, you are immediately cutting down your dating pool by a huge chunk. Many single people over 40 have children and have been married and divorced (that's also a dealbreaker for some people). I have definitely seen men over 40 and 50 who don't want to date women who have been divorced and have kids. It's almost unrealistic when you get to a certain age (over 40) to think the pool of people who don't have kids and/or have been married is going to be overflowing.

The worst one I've ever seen was a man in his 40s say he didn't date single moms. He said something along the lines of "just because you were irresponsible with your reproductive organs, doesn't mean I have to pay for your mistake." WOW. I'm sure the single ladies are just beating down his door. That pissed me off so much. What a loser.

The other part of this equation that pisses me off is when guys "like" me on apps that say they won't date single moms. EVERY dating app I've been on, I have been upfront and clear. I am a single mom. Not only do I check the boxes for that but it's one of the first things I say. SINGLE MOM. And yes I get it, most men swipe without even looking but it's annoying.

Having children and/or a divorce in your life doesn't make you damaged goods. It means you lived life, you have experiences that person may not have had, or can understand. When dating, choose wisely and see what they are saying in their profiles and when they talk to you. Don't make someone make you feel bad for having kids (or being divorced). Single parents are amazing people. And if a potential date can't see that, then move on.

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